How would you feel if you started married life in debt?

You aksed about the matter but he didn't like talking about it so you no longer asked? When you are in a marriage my girl, you have the right to know even when you are going to get married. If you had known the amount would it of stopped you from marrying him? If so then I would be concerned about the reason's for mayying the guy. Loosing you job is going to cause there to be debts but it does sound to me like he tries to get another job asap. It is hard work being married, and requires that we love and support each other no matter what. You do need to sit down and come up with an action plan to get rid of the bedt as soon as possible.