How should I handle my boyfriend of over a year living with me and I support him?

I date a younger man. He's 25 and I am 39. We dated for 6 months and then he had some problems with his current living arrangement and moved in unexpectedly with me. I have a nice home, that I share with my son. At first the arrangement was nice. I didn't have to coordinate our time together during time my son was with his father. My boyfriend had a job then, but didn't contribute towards bills, and I wasn't sure how to address this with him since we never actually discussed living together before it happened, but I was sure at some point he'd start. Well, he didn't. He quit his job a few months after moving in and said he was going to try to start his own business. I tried to be supportive, but it's hard when I don't get any help from him financially and I feel taken advantage of. I have paid all the bills entirely since he moved in 9 months ago. He doesn't buy groceries. He has helped recently with a house project; he contributed labor and a small part of material expense from his pocket. He gets by paying his bills by luck really. I've talked to him about the problem both before and after he quit his *real* job. He said he didn't know he should help because I didn't ask. Since this initial talk, he still hasn't helped financially though. I'm not really sure what to do at this point. I could really use the help financially (I get by, but I struggle). I feel like he eats here, sleeps here, and while he takes me out to dinner, other than that he has it pretty easy. I'm naturally starting to feel resentful. Ive stopped talking to him about the problem because he says I make him feel like a piece of **** and like he doesn't do anything right. I asked him several times about looking for real work (because I would think he'd want to pay his bills; i don't pay anything that is his) and he said he doesn't want to work for someone else. I told him neither do i, but that's the reality. He has to make money to cover his gas, car payment, insurance and cell. That's it. I have to meet those things, plus all the living expenses (mortgage, utilities, upkeep, groceries, etc). Is this hopeless?