If you found out your spouse didn't consider you their best friend...?

I have been in that boat and have rowed the orr's so long that my arm fell off. But, I understand just what you are saying. It becomes an issue of trust. The big word TRUST. It is not easy to just get over that. Time and I do mean time. It has taken me a few years to let it all go. Then yet he still steps on my trust. Some in stupid ways and some out of jealousy. Yes, jealousy. They deny it but, its true. Yes, you are like me I withdraw to heal. Get my mind back on track. Then I come back out and need to keep my defense up. You are doing the same. Will you ever stop. I didn't. It is the only way I can stay in this relationship. I know he loves me. But, I have to survive. I have talked to someone for a couple of years and did counseling with hubby. I am not entirely on the right track. But, I try to work with it. Here is how I deal. Its like fighting over who get to play in the sand box. Sharing is hard after fighting. So set it aside and look at as if your the bigger person and share. You know it is just not one sided that is one of the biggest factors in this. I love my husband even when he steps on my feelings. He is my best friend. Everyone makes mistakes.